Forgiveness is the action or process of forgiving or being forgiven. To forgive is to stop feeling angry or resentful toward(someone) for an offense, flaw, or mistake.The hardest thing for me is to forgive. When I looked up the definition, I didn't really grasp that the feelings I was having towards people was because I had not forgiven them. Sometimes in life we feel like forgiveness is for the other person, but it's not. Forgiveness is for us. I had to learn in life that sometimes people are going to do things to me that I do not like, and I'm not always going to receive an apology from them. Its hard for me to forgive my friends, family member, or even a spouse. Sometimes people do things to us that they don't believe is wrong, but we believe it is, and then were stuck with being hurt because they won't acknowledge their faults. So many people that I cared for have hurt me, and I had to come to the realization that I can't always expect a apology back. Sometimes we expect people to be like us, treating people like we want to be treated, but that's not always going to happen. So how do you forgive someone who hasn't asked for forgiveness? It's easier said then done. When I don't forgive someone, it only hurts me. I was angry inside, and I was never happy. I was turning into the person that I didn't want to be. When we don't forgive that person, we promise ourselves that we would never be like that person, but sometimes we become that person we despise. I noticed I was becoming someone else, I had to look in the mirror at myself, and tell myself, I needed to change. I was miserable, I didn't enjoy the things I use to, and I was lashing out at people for no reason. So how do you forgive someone who hasn't asked for forgiveness?
-One way you can forgive someone who hasn't asked for forgiveness, is to talk to them, and let them know that they have hurt you.
-If you can't talk to them, try writing them a letter explaining how you feel, and how they hurt you.
-If you don't feel comfortable giving them a letter, write the letter, and instead of giving it to them, burn the letter, to set it free from your heart.
-If it is someone in your family, maybe you can ask another family member to be the mediator when you talk to them.
-If the person is someone at your job, and you have to be around them, then talk to your manager, or Human Resources, to see if you can be moved to another area.
Remember forgiveness is not for them it's for you. You deserve to be happy, worrying about getting an apology from someone,is pointless. Move on and live your life because life is too short to be miserable. If you are having a hard time forgiving someone, email me, we can talk about it. I know somethings are harder to forgive, and it takes time to heal, so if you need a shoulder, I am always a email away. Stay Beautiful. Stay tune for a new topic next Monday.