Love in relationships is sometimes complicated, or at least that's how it feels. Everyone wants love, and wants to be loved, but don't really know how to love after being let down in relationships. Relationships are risky, no one wants to get hurt, but we all love relationships. Relationships goes beyond having a partner, we have relationships with our siblings, parents, co workers, and friends. When we have these types of bond with people, we tend to put our all in them, and they end up hurting us. The worst part about being in a relationship with a partner, is when you both have different feelings about the relationship. One might love the other, but the other might not love the one that loves them. This is the risk you have to take when dating, and being in relationships. People sometimes think they want the same things as the other person, then decide they don't want it no more. My experiences with love hasn't been perfect, but I still gave my all. Its a risk when you put your trust in people, it makes you feel vulnerable, powerless, and it can be scary. You don't know what you're getting into sometimes, a person with a different personality, and behavior. How do you know if you can trust them? How do you know if this person is right for you? How do you know if they are the one for you? These are some questions that might come to mind, but the answer is, you don't know. When you love, you take a risk, and you don't know what you are going to get, but if you give yourself fully to that person, at least you can say, you did your best. I'm a natural worrier, and I get anxiety about things when I'm uncertain about the outcome. It's normal to worry about the risk, but though I worry, and get anxiety, I still go through with it, no matter how scared I am about something, I still take a chance. That's what life is about. We have to take chances, and hope that it works out. We won't ever know the outcome, if we don't try it. Love is complication, I know, but once you find the right one, you'll be glad you gave your all.
Tips on Learning how to love again.
Take is slow- When you meet someone new, take it slow, get to know them. Getting to know someone gives you an idea of what the person wants, and you're able to see if you both want the same things in a relationship. Sometimes when you rush into relationships, you end up leaving them quickly, once you discover the person isn't what you were really looking for. You can't change people, you have to accept them for who they are, and if there are things you dislike about someone, you usually discover them in the beginning phase, so that's why it's best to take it slow.
Don't over analyze- When you meet someone new, don't try to figure them out, instead listen to them, thats how you learn them. Don't look at their behavior, and try to connect them to your ex. For example, if your ex had a different shift then you, and it didn't work out because you didn't spend a lot of time together, doesn't mean it will be the same for your relationship with them. Take everything day by day. When you're constantly comparing them to your ex, you won't be able to focus on them. I'm not saying ignore warning signs of a cheater, I'm saying don't over analyze the small flaws of the person, before you get to know them.
It's okay if it doesn't work out- Don't beat yourself up about your past relationships, not everyone is the same. Relationships teaches us lessons. What you learn from each relationship, will help you with the next one. Not everyone gets lucky, and find the perfect person the first time, but if you do, then thats great. If you don't, don't give up, true love is real, but you have to be willing to love, to receive true love. I don't regret any relationship I've been in, they have shaped me, and molded me into this wonderful person I am. If I decided to not love again, then I wouldn't have found the most amazing husband that I have now. So, don't give up on love, and relationships. Don't let anyone stop you from loving again. Don't get bitter, get you a person that is better for you.
"First best is falling in love. Second best is being in love. Least best is falling out of love. But any of it is better than never having being in love." -Maya Angelou