Conflict is always perceived as negative, but I think it’s a good think. Conflict is healthy when done correctly. I used to hate conflict because I thought conflict always lead to altercations. Conflict is a disagreement or argument between two or more people. When I think of good conflict I think of debates. When you are debating most people don’t agree with your opinions, so you argue your beliefs sometimes with facts and data. My whole life I use to try to avoid conflict, but I realized this was the worst thing to do. Trying to avoid conflict doesn’t get rid of conflict. Sometimes in life you must face issues head on.
Having a discussion with someone that you don’t agree with doesn’t always have to turn ugly. I have learned how to address conflict in a healthy way without it leading to a heated argument. If I’m upset about something I usually calm down before I go talk to the person. I don’t like addressing issues when I’m angry. I don’t address issues when I angry because I don’t want to say something out of anger to make the issue worst. I believe conflict is part of you standing up for yourself. Speaking your mind. Protecting your beliefs. Not everything deserves a response, but some issues do. I teach my children to stand up for themselves by fighting with their words. Not all things require violence we all can agree to disagree and keep it moving.
My oldest son used to struggle with this because he likes to keep the peace like me, but he wouldn’t stand up for himself when he needed to. I talk to him and let him know it’s okay to stand up for yourself just do it in a calm way. It’s the way you approach conflict that determines the outcome. If you approach it in a negative way it will turn bad but if you go at it in a positive way understanding that the person may not agree with you then it will end well. I always tell people don’t let someone control your emotions you have control over your emotions. So, if someone doesn’t agree with you it’s okay, they have a right to their own beliefs and opinions. We were made unique and sometimes we are not going to agree. So as you go about your day remember conflict is good. It’s the way you approach the situation that determines the outcome. “An eye for an eye will only make the whole world blind.” -Mahatma Gandhi
Do you struggle with conflict? Feel free to message me or let me know in the comments below.