“If a problem is fixable, if a situation is such that you can do something about it, then there is no need to worry. If it's not fixable, then there is no help in worrying. There is no benefit in worrying whatsoever.”
-The Dalai Lama
I believe every day in life we are put through tests. The way we react to the test can make or break our day. For example, on the road driving you may find yourself behind a slow driver, to some this might be irritating, to others, it may not. If it irritates you most likely it drives, you crazy. For instance, for those who have pet peeves most likely are irritated by a habit that someone else does, but why though? Trust me I have pet peeves, but I don’t let it drive me crazy. Why? Because people have a right to their own actions. The way they choose to live their life is up to them. Though we may not like the way they live their life or the choices they make, why make yourself crazy over their choices?
As a parent with friends who are parents, I notice that a lot of parents blame themselves for their children actions. They say things like I don’t know where I went wrong with this one? What if you didn’t go wrong with this one? Maybe this one is a rebel and chooses to make choices on their own regardless of what you have equipped them with. It’s perfectly fine if they do this, this is part of learning from your actions. They must learn just like we had to. We weren’t perfect as a child, teenager, or young adult, and were still not perfect. We’re a work in progress. As a parent you must stop blaming yourself for how your children life turns out. They made choices and now they must deal with the consequences.
People will drive us crazy if we get upset over everything they do. We do not have control over anyone but ourselves. I know this may be a shocker for some but it’s true. When we get upset with people actions it’s a sign that we want to have control. You will spend your life stressed if you’re constantly effected by everything people do. Your spouse is going to do something you dislike, your children, friends, and even strangers. We are going to do something people dislike as well. So what? The choices people make they must deal with the consequences, not us. Don’t let people to make you crazy. When we allow other people behaviors to affect us, it’s them that have control over our life, not us.
We often don’t realize that the things we react to is what has control over us. We give them power over our life every time we do this. We must always guard our mind, body, and soul and learn to stay in control. The more we react to things the more we do harm to our body. I understand there are a lot of people that do disrespect things to us and reacting to them doesn’t change their character. So why do we allow them to change the type of person we are? There are ways to handle frustrating situations, but we also must remember that we can only control how we react not how someone else react to our actions. So, choose your battles carefully.
As you go about your day remember we can’t control people behaviors. People have a right to their actions and opinions. Don’t let someone’s actions drive you crazy. In order to keep peace in our life we must learn that not everything is within our control and not everything deserves a reaction.
“Someone else’s action should not determine your response.” – Dalai Lama